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My Favorite Sexual Activity
Quickly, without thinking about the answer, what would you like to do with this guy?The answer is probably: touch him.Erotic desire is about touch.What we call "sex" is actually about touch: fondling...
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The Beverly Hillbillies
The Beverly Hillbillies, one of the 1960s line of hayseed comedies (others included Petticoat Junction, Green Acres, Gomer Pyle, and The Andy Griffith Show), slogged on from 1962 to 1971, and your...
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April 1968: The First Boy I Tied Up
Racine, Wisconsin, April 1968I was eight years old, in second grade at Hansche Elementary School in Racine, Wisconsin, and I wanted to tie up a boy.Guys were being tied up all the time in the mass...
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Once Upon a Mattress
December 12, 1972. Â I'm in seventh grade at Washington Junior High. Â After our usual Tuesday night dinner of tuna casserole, we gather in the living room and light up the Christmas tree-- we just set...
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Pep Rallies
When I was in junior high, every Friday they forced us to go to the gym for a so-called "pep rallies" every Friday. Cheerleaders (all girls) forced us to yell "Boy, am I enthused!", jump up and down,...
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A Student Drops My Class So We Can Date
Plains, September 2015I teach in a discipline that gay men aren't typically drawn to, in a college that gay men aren't typically drawn to, so out of the 100 or so guys in my classes every semester, I...
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A Gaggle of Josephs
It's theater season again, and that means beefcake. Â Dozens of high school and college theater departments will be finding the most buffed megahunk who can carry a tune and casting him in Joseph in the...
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The Best Date in the History of the Plains
Plains, March 2017I met Reynard (not his real name) on Grindr at the beginning of the fall 2015 semester. He was 18 years old, a freshman theater arts major, and in my intro class! Â I don't hook up...
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Bullfighter Beefcake
Bullfighting, known in Spanish as corrida de toros, or "running of the bulls" is a spectacle of man against animal, or rather male against male, since both the toreros and the bull evoke powerful...
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The Music Major's Top Turn-On
Plains, January 2017First day of the semester. Â A day of anticipation and dread. Â Will my new classes be a pleasure or a pain? Which students will be eager to participate? Â Which will be taciturn?But...
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Western Wind: How We Learned that Literature Was About Heterosexuals
August 28th, 1978, the first day of my freshman year at Augustana College. Â I was 17 years old, newly out. Â I didn't know any gay people, but I hoped that would change. Â Surely at a big, modern...
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Ryan Cooley: Queer as Folk
Born in 1988, Canadian actor Ryan Cooley has appeared in several gay- and lesbian-subtext programs, such as I was a Sixth Grade Alien (1999-2001), as the alien, with future bodybuilder Daniel Clark as...
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The Joy of Pecs: G-Rated Version
You see an attractive guy in the gym, in the Student Union, or walking down the street, or working on his car. He returns your cruising smile, so you start a brief conversation. Â Now it's time to make...
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Cary Grant: Hints and Closets in the 1930s
On November 29, 1986, Cary Grant died in Davenport, Iowa, right across the river from my home town of Rock Island. Â I was living in West Hollywood at the time, but still, it felt weird to know that a...
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Randall's Hookup with Dick Sargent, Cary Grant, and Groucho Marx
West Hollywood, Fall 1994It is the evening before the AIDS Walk, an event almost as big as Halloween or Gay Pride, and Lane and I are having some guys over for dinner, including Will the bondage boy,...
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Skeezix of Gasoline Alley: 1930s Gay Icon
When I was a kid in the 1960s, Dad would call me Skeezix when I misbehaved:"Put down that comic book and clean your room, Skeezix!"Particularly when my misbehaving had some connection to same-sex...
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New Year's Eve with the College Track Star and 4 Other Guys
I'm finally ready to tell about what happened on New Year's Eve, with Ryan the Small Town Track Star.Indianapolis, December 2016I had been looking at pictures like the one below, and reading sext...
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The Real Gay Characters of "The Real O'Neals"
What happens when a "perfect" Irish Catholic family finds out that they're not perfect after all?Mom and Dad are divorcing.Oldest son has an eating disorder.Daughter has some kind of psychological...
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October 1972: The Sausage Sighting Prank at the Funeral Home
In the fall of 1972, when I was in seventh grade, my friend's Craig's older brother had a job at Larson's Funeral Home.Jim was sixteen years old, tall and lean, with sharp features, a thick neck, and...
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Naked Men in Every Country in Europe
Remember the Johnny Cash song "I've Been Everywhere"?I've been everywhere, manI've been everywhere, manCrossed the deserts bare, manBreathed the mountain air, manI haven't been everywhere, but I've...
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