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The Youngest Guy I've Ever Dated
The story about Scott, the theater major with the professor fetish, is probably the most risque on the blog.The bondage isn't the most risque part.He was 22 years old, and I had just turned 54, an age...
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Rock Island Boxers: Home Town Beefcake Watching
When I was growing up in Rock Island, I thought of it as a sleepy, boring small town. The action was in Chicago, but that was three hours away, an infinite distance when you didn't have a car and had...
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It's a Man's World: A Gay Threesome from the 1960s
Speaking of Ted Bessell, before That Girl, he starred in It’s a Man’s World (1962-63) as Tom-Tom, a college student obsessed by Beat poetry and jazz, both emblematic of the multisexual bohemian...
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My Date or Trick in the White Room
In West Hollywood, nearly every day, I stopped into the Different Light Bookstore on Larrabee. I joked that I was moving the entire stock into my apartment.And one day I saw Mario browsing in the...
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Watching Monty Python's Flying Circus
When PBS came to Rock Island in the 1970s, it brought us a full-fledged British invasion. Sitcoms (Father Dear Father, Good Neighbors), science fiction (The Prisoner, The Hitchhiker's Guide to the...
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Saturday Morning with Joel and the Bots
During the 1990s, when I was living in West Hollywood, we watched a show called Mystery Science Theater 3000 every Saturday morning, before gong off to buy groceries or go to the gym or do whatever...
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Derek and I Share the Cowboy of Sunset Boulevard
Santa Monica Boulevard, West Hollywood, fall 1988. A small town of tree-lined streets. Small shops, restaurants, and bars where gay men and lesbians gathered in search of freedom.The Sunset Strip,...
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The Gay Rat Pack
Between 1960 and 1965, when all-American beefcake was giving way to suave, sophisticated, and cool, The Rat Pack ruled Las Vegas. They were five actors and singers, performing regularly at casinos...
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Sharing Derek's Date with the Teenage Cowboy
When Alan moved to Thailand in the fall of 1987, I moved in with a fitness model-turned-realtor named Derek, a tall, muscular, hairy guy in his 40s, and his lover Chazz, a slim, androgynous twink.They...
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The Wonderful Flight to the Mushroom Planet
When I first moved to L.A. in 1985, I met 40-year old David Cameron, a lawyer involved with historic preservation and gay politics -- and a connection to my earliest childhood.When he was nine years...
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Douglas Barr: The Gay Casting Couch
During the heyday of the Village People, they even found their way onto prime time: When the Whistle Blows was a sitcom about three hunky construction workers, Buzz (Douglas Barr, left), Randy (future...
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Boy in Darkness: Gay Symbolism and Gothic Horror: The Most Frightening Story...
When I was an undergraduate at Augustana College, I bought lots of old science fiction novels at the used bookstore. A surprising number had naked men on the covers. I picked up The Inner Landscape...
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The Boy Who Had Never Been Kissed
I just moved into the 21st century with an iphone and an ipad, so now I have three devices that all do approximately the same things. Except the iphone and ipad have an app called Grindr, which posts...
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15 Rules for Hooking Up with IPhone Apps
I just got a new IPhone and downloaded the Grindr, Scruff, and Adam4Adam apps. For someone who didn't go into an internet chatroom until he was 37, they is amazing, a smorgasbord of hookup...
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Frankie and Erik in the Middle
The heir of dysfunctional family sitcoms like Roseanne and Married...with Children, Malcolm in the Middle (2000-2006) was about the middle boy (Frankie Muniz) in a family of miscreants, who happened to...
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Cousin Buster and I Get God Mad
Observant Jews often face conundrums about everyday activities. You can't work on the Sabbath; does that include pushing elevator buttons? You need separate sets of dishes for dairy products and...
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Bug Hall: Always Undressed
Bug Hall was nine years old when he won the role of scrawny Alfalfa in Little Rascals (1994), a modernization of the 1930’s shorts, but heavy on heterosexual romance. He was asked to appear in his...
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6000 Ways to Say "Penis"
As an undergrad Modern Languages major, I studied Spanish, French, German, and Greek. In grad school in Comparative Literature, I studied Italian, Russian, and Turkish. Since then, I've studied...
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Two Surprises on My Sausage List
Back before I met Jeremy, who doesn't care for traveling, I used to go to Europe at least once a year, sometimes twice, usually at Christmastime or in the spring. I flew into Paris or Amsterdam,...
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The Top 10 Public Penises of Prague
It's 8 hours by train from Antwerp to Prague, capital of the Czech Republic, but worth it. Prague is one of the most beautiful cities in Europe. Try the view from Charles Bridge at night, looking...
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