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Heterosexuals Think Gay Men are Still Kids
With Thanksgiving and Christmas approaching, I'm going to be visiting relatives. And once again, I'm going to notice something disturbing:They think I'm a teenager. Or 21 at the oldest.The problem...
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Joe Manganiello: Gay Best Friend
Joe Manganiello, who starred as "Big Dick Richie" in Magic Mike (2012), is a strong gay ally, speaking at the HRC fundraiser in 2011, presenting buddy Matt Bomer (below) the GLSEN "Inspiration Award"...
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Six Naked College Boys, Five Sausage Sightings, and One Date
On surveys, only about 2% of the U.S. male population admits to being gay, and another 1% bisexual. Of course, most are leery of coming out on a survey questionnaire, and dissimulate. The actual...
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Fall 1996: My Date with the Vampire
When I was living in San Francisco, a newcomer showed up in church one Sunday: mid 30s, very tall and pale, with a long face, long hair, and a weird Satanic goatee. He was wearing sunglasses, but...
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The Princess: Sometimes Boys are Girls
Sometimes boys are girls. Eight-year old Sarah may have male physiology, but who cares? She has been telling her family that she is a girl since she learned to talk. Her father and aunt are ok with...
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How To Date Younger Guys (When You're Over 40)
Ever since I turned 40, some fourteen years ago, I have a simple strategy for getting dates or hookups with twinks (guys under age 30):1. Go to wherever they are.2. Wait 30 seconds for one to approach...
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A Boy Named Twilight
I had a recurring dream, or an especially vivid memory, of being attracted to a boy in my earliest childhood, maybe even before I felt the biceps of the bodybuilder on the beach.A very short house with...
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Omar Sharif and His Grandson
When I was a kid in the 1960s, our newspaper, The Rock Island Argus, had several interesting columns: Dear Abby, a criptoquip, and "Omar Sharif on Bridge."Nazarenes weren't allowed to play cards, so I...
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A Guy with Daddy Issues Tears My Clothes Off
Ever since I wimped out on Raphael, the Gay Psychic Angel, who was perfect in every way except that his arms didn't work, I have felt guilty. I should have called -- I would have called -- except I...
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"Open Up the Closet Door": The Theme Song of 300 Nights in a Leather Bar
In West Hollywood, gay bars always had a theme song that you would hear over and over, at least once an hour, every time you visited.From 1985 to 1989, I went to Mugi, the Asian bar in Hollywood,...
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10 Good Stories for Gay Dating
Everyone should have a repertoire of 10 good stories, 5 to use when cruising or meeting new people in general, and 5 to use on a date. Remember the rules:1. They should be short.2. They should present...
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Who Says Childhood is the Best Time of Our Lives?
After reading about the 38 gay events from my childhood -- marrying the boy next door, seeing my cousin Joe naked, getting kissed by a boy vampire, slow dancing in the school gym, my boyfriend Bill...
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July 2015: A Museum Guard in My Bed
Instead of going to Europe every year, we now drive from Minnesota to the East Coast. Two weeks, 15 friends and relatives, 9 hotels, 8 museums, 5 guest passes at the YMCA, 4 horrible hotel gyms, 2...
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Mad Max: Beyond Homophobia
I've been watching the Mad Max movies. Well, sort of watching them -- they're 90% Wacky Races, colorful post-Apocalyptic figures in weird cars chasing each other through the Australian desert.With an...
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Summertime Beefcake at the Dunking Booth
Among my favorite summertime sights are the dunking booths at festivals, county fairs, Celtic games, school carnivals, summer camps, and various parties.They are descended from the old dunk tanks used...
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Sleeping with a Priest
You may know that I have a thing for religious boys, especially clergy. I love the juxtaposition of the spiritual and the physical, the penises hidden beneath their gaudy robes, the erotic desire that...
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Popeye: The First Gay Superhero
During the 1960s, Captain Ernie's Cartoon Showboat often showed Popeye cartoons. They were awful, nothing but heterosexist morality plays. In every single one of them, the absurdly macho sailor...
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My Night with Yuri, His Boyfriend, and the Emo Boy
FridayI arrive at Heathrow Airport at 5:00 am. Yuri picks me up and takes me to his tiny, incredibly expensive apartment near Soho Square, in the heart of London's gay neighborhood.His boyfriend...
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Gay Characters on Children's TV: Steven Universe
For fifty years children's tv has been a heteronormative wasteland, where same-sex desire exists, at best, in code and innuendo. But during the last two years, two programs on the Cartoon Network have...
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Best Friends
Before you come out, "best friend" is often code for "boyfriend," or someone who would be a boyfriend if only you knew that gay people existed. After you come out, you realize that a "best friend" is...
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