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21 Surprising Facts about Lane
I've been trying to make a coherent picture out of the lives and loves of my ex-boyfriends, first Alan, then Fred, and now Lane, my partner for about ten years and friend for about thirty, But I can't...
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The Beefcake Art of Annibale Carracci
Annibale Carracci (1560-1609) was a painter of the Italian Baroque period who specialized in mythological and allegorical subjects, obviously preferring the male form to the female. He painted big,...
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I May or May Not Have Hooked Up with My Boyfriend's Grandson
Salt Lake City, Utah, September 2015One day in the summer of 2015, a few weeks after the Supreme Court decision that legalized same-sex marriage in the U.S., I get a wedding invitation in the mail, and...
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The Incest Taboo
Scholars have written a lot of nonsense on the incest taboo, why most cultures forbid marriage or sexual relations between close relatives. They say it's to avoid birth defects and other genetic...
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March 1985: The Brady Bunch Dad Plays a Swishy Queen
You have to be careful watching tv. The producers, actors, and directors are not your friends; even when they are gay, they are often Uncle Toms. So it's impossible to avoid frequent statements that...
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Peter Pan
I'm fine with drag now, but in 1966, I was freaked out by Mary Martin's portrayal of Peter Pan,a monstrous conflation of male/female and child/adult (Peter is traditionally played by an older woman, in...
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Lane Has a Three-Way with his Brother
West Hollywood, September 1993My partner Lane turns 38 today and Randall, the Muscle Bear with the Pierced Penis, is throwing him a dinner party. We have the usual discussions of dates from hell,...
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The Interrupted Journey of Betty and Barney Hill
There haven't been a lot of alien abduction stories recently, but for about ten years, they were all the rage.People having weird "missing time" experiences or strange screen memories, going to a...
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Will the Bondage Boy Hooks Up with Peter Fonda
West Hollywood, April 1993Every year Lane's mother Rosa hosted a huge Passover seder. Her house on Romaine Street was packed with relatives from New York, friends from Temple Beth El, employees,...
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10 Little House on the Prairie Hunks
When I was in high school and college, if I was home on Monday night at all, I was watching a hip sitcom like The Jeffersons or WKRP in Cincinnati, certainly not Little House on the Prairie (1974-83)....
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Fall 1987: The Universal Agony of Heterosexual Life
Fall 1987: I'm in grad school in Comparative Literature at the University of Southern California, enrolled in a Seminar in Modern Literature.Big mistake. I've had my share of elitist, condescending,...
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The 13 Saddest Songs of the 1970s
People who weren't there think of the 1970s as a nonstop party before the deprivation of the 1980s, with everyone doing weird drugs, having sex with everything that moved, and dancing all night long....
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The Homophobia of "American Horror Story," Season Five
I've been watching American Horror Story since the beginning. The anthology series, using a troop of actors to play different characters in different historical settings, has always had a strong gay...
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Cleonike: Gay Illustrator of the Jazz Age
Cleo Damianakes, aka Cleo Wilkins, aka Cleonike, aka Cleon (1895-1979) was an artist and illustrator of the Jazz Age. Born in Berkeley, she studied at the University of California, and then moved to...
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How We Invented the Sex Party
West Hollywood, November 1992In West Hollywood in the 1980s and 1990s, hooking up was frowned upon. You dated, shared your boyfriend with your friends, and played party games with a sexual component,...
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Beach Movies 1: The Beefcake
The beach movie crazy began with Beach Party (1963), and lasted through Catalina Caper (1967). During that 4 year period, American International Pictures churned out a dozen beach movies, starring...
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The 10 Ugliest, Biggest Guys
Have you ever noticed that the uglier the guy, the bigger the penis? It's as if nature has compensated for his clock-stopping face and gag-inducing physique, or it's giving you a reward for being able...
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How "I'm Coming Out" Became a Gay Anthem
I'm coming outI want the world to knowGot to let it showHow can this not be a gay anthem?You're leaving behind the years of darkness and despair, the big lie that your parents, friends, teachers, and...
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Three Unscreened Hookups on the Same Night
Plains, September 2016You're probably wondering why I've been posting so many bereavement stories. This was a bad summer for people I know getting sick and passing away. Other guys eat when they're...
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Chris Dickerson: The First Gay Black Bodbuilder
During the 1960s, bodybuilding was primarily the domain of white working-class men. Female, black, and Asian bodybuilders were rare. Segregation was still in place throughout the American South,...
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