After the demise of the drag-queen ABBA and the faux-gay Village People, I started listening to popular music more aggressively, looking for "real" gay-friendly songs. Or at least songs with subtexts. I found no depictions of same-sex romance, anywhere -- the most you could hope for was a dropped pronoun. But a few Top 40 Hits -- one or two per year -- were about the search for a Good Place, or celebrations of male beauty (with beefcake-heavy music videos), and or just about being proud of your identity.
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1. "Physical" (Olivia Newton-John, 1981).
2. "I'm Coming Out" (Diana Ross, 1981). Ms. Ross claimed that it was about teenage girls "coming out" into high society, but gay teens knew what it was really about:
I'm coming out -- I want the world to know, got to let it show.
3. "It's Raining Men" (The Weather Girls, 1982). The catchy beat made it easy to appropriate. I didn't even mind the heterosexism:
God bless Mother Nature, she's a single woman too
She took off to heaven, and she did what she had to do
She taught every angel to rearrange the sky,
So that each and every woman could find a perfect guy.
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4. "Self-Control" (Laura Branigan, 1982). She goes to a mostly heterosexual orgy, screams when hands reach out to grab her, and ends up sleeping with a mysterious man in a white mask and red gloves, but in a era where gay teens had to live in masks, a celebration of the night resonated:
Oh the night is my world. City lights, painted girls.
I must believe in something, so I guess I'll just believe that this night will never go.
5. "Holiday" (Madonna, 1983). No gay people mentioned, but coming out often required forgetting about years of pain: it's time for the good times -- forget about the bad times.
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6. "So Many Men, So Little Time" (Miquel Brown, 1983). A woman praises heterosexual one-night stands, but you could also use it to praise the joy of boy-watching.
Each new one I meet makes my heart beat faster, when I see them so strong and tall.
So many men, so little time. How can I lose?
So many men, so little time. How can I choose?
7. "Relax" (Frankie Goes to Hollywood, 1983).
8. "I Am What I Am" (Gloria Gaynor, 1983) could be read as a response to the bigots (and there were a lot of bigots) who kept screaming that gays were worthless, subhuman, monsters out to destroy the world.
I am good, I am strong, I am somebody, I do belong.
I am useful, I am true, I am worthy, I am as good as you.
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9. "Smalltown Boy" (Bronski Beat, 1984). I didn't realize at the time that the boy was leaving town to escape homophobic harassment --but it could easily be applied to anyone searching for a "good place." (and I liked the music video with the smalltown boy swimmer in tight speedos).
The answers you seek will never be found at home.
The love that you need will never be found at home.
10. "Let's Hear it for the Boy" (Deniece Williams, 1984).
Not much after. AIDS, conservative retrenchment, and the re-demonization of gay people eliminated even those few songs that could be appropriated. In 1985, Madonna was singing "Like a Virgin" (about sex, not pride), Wham started making their previously androgynous songs gender specific (I said you were the perfect girl for me), and the vigorously homophobic Eddie Murphy was inviting heterosexuals to "Party All the Time."
See also: Ocho Rios: Tracking Down a Jamaican Bodybuilder; and Culture Club
2. "I'm Coming Out" (Diana Ross, 1981). Ms. Ross claimed that it was about teenage girls "coming out" into high society, but gay teens knew what it was really about:
I'm coming out -- I want the world to know, got to let it show.
3. "It's Raining Men" (The Weather Girls, 1982). The catchy beat made it easy to appropriate. I didn't even mind the heterosexism:
God bless Mother Nature, she's a single woman too
She took off to heaven, and she did what she had to do
She taught every angel to rearrange the sky,
So that each and every woman could find a perfect guy.
Oh the night is my world. City lights, painted girls.
I must believe in something, so I guess I'll just believe that this night will never go.
5. "Holiday" (Madonna, 1983). No gay people mentioned, but coming out often required forgetting about years of pain: it's time for the good times -- forget about the bad times.
Each new one I meet makes my heart beat faster, when I see them so strong and tall.
So many men, so little time. How can I lose?
So many men, so little time. How can I choose?
7. "Relax" (Frankie Goes to Hollywood, 1983).
8. "I Am What I Am" (Gloria Gaynor, 1983) could be read as a response to the bigots (and there were a lot of bigots) who kept screaming that gays were worthless, subhuman, monsters out to destroy the world.
I am good, I am strong, I am somebody, I do belong.
I am useful, I am true, I am worthy, I am as good as you.
The answers you seek will never be found at home.
The love that you need will never be found at home.
10. "Let's Hear it for the Boy" (Deniece Williams, 1984).
Not much after. AIDS, conservative retrenchment, and the re-demonization of gay people eliminated even those few songs that could be appropriated. In 1985, Madonna was singing "Like a Virgin" (about sex, not pride), Wham started making their previously androgynous songs gender specific (I said you were the perfect girl for me), and the vigorously homophobic Eddie Murphy was inviting heterosexuals to "Party All the Time."
See also: Ocho Rios: Tracking Down a Jamaican Bodybuilder; and Culture Club